If you are shy then don't worry instead try this.

 

"Shy" is among some words which are normal, but we think that they are curse but why? 

How to overcome shyness is not a very difficult question to answer. We all need confidence for a lot of reasons, to speak confidently, to influence people, to adapt to new environment and new people, to grow our reputation and really a lot of reasons are behind this question "how to overcome shyness?". A lot of people think that it is very difficult to overcome shyness bur trust me you are only one to three steps away from overcoming it.

Is shyness really a curse?

If you think that shyness is a curse, or it's a very bad thing then you are wrong. I know that it's bad because shy people are not able to take benefit of opportunities and their participation is very low also they are not able to interact with people but let me tell you one thing that every person (leaving some exceptions) who is now very confident was first a shy one. Shyness is in one's nature in the beginning because when we were kids we were only interacting with our family and our friends. We never knew that we have to interact with a lot of people in this world. Those who interacted with a lot of people in their childhood are very confident. So is this a fault of your childhood? Absolutely not. It's not the fault of your childhood. Some of those children are not very common. But, others develop confidence with experience. And literally it is not that difficult to overcome shyness. Just follow these steps and you will overcome it. But for now be happy that shyness is not a curse and get ready to move on.

       

 

How to overcome shyness?

Look I will not tell you a lot of ways to overcome this, but I will tell you a very magnificent way to overcome this. The reason why I am not telling you a lot of ways because it will make it more complex for you. I will go straightforward and trust me others ways are really very effective but as I will tell you only one reason, so you will be able to focus on only that and will get very drastic results, but it will be a little difficult.

But I am assuring that if you will do this consistently then surely you will overcome shyness. You will get such a level of confidence that you will also be able to speak in a large crowd without hesitating.

Just fight it continuously.

Don't punch it or kick it but just face it. We all know that the best way of overcoming a fear is to face it until it becomes scared of you. Look if you are scared of talking to people then just go and talk more and more people and also if you will use techniques in communication then it will make the task a little easy but at last you are the one who will make the conversation go for a long time. Similarly, if you are scared of giving a speech then tips can only tell you how to start, how to continue and how to end but using so many tactics without confidence would make it robotic. That's why the only trick which is going to work is you. You will never know how to communicate if you will never try it, you will never know how to perform in front of an audience if you will not try it on your own. Look for tips and tricks but remember that only knowing tips would not help if you don't know how to deliver. But remember that you will get very happy when people will appreciate you for your hard work and courage.

Do it again and again.

When you will face your fear again and again then it will keep on decreasing. Yes, actually for gaining experience of problem handling and developing your own style you will need to face it again and again.

But, actually you will need to do it for four to five times and literally your fear will vanish. Then you need to just develop your skill, that's it. Trust me the more you will try the more you will become confident and will improve.

What about the insults?

I know that some time it will be very difficult because some people will try to break your will power but don't worry. If their insults are worthy feedbacks then mark them and improve but if they are useless then just don't mind it. It will only waste your time.

Always be positive.

Your will power will also need a fuel of positivity to keep going. Let me tell you a secret tip "While facing your fear don't think about your speaking skills or what you are going to perform just think about how glorious the ending will be for you." but don't be overconfident just show the others that you can also do this ☺☺.

Conclusion 

If you want to win a fear forever then just face it. There is no other shortcut for it. Just try it again and again, and you will really overcome your shyness. Whether you will do it correctly or not, but you will become use to of it, and then it will never tease you again. Now "if you are scared of what others will say about you then remember that they will regret of their words someday if you will not regret about what they said to you today". Always be positive because there are a lot of people who will demotivate you, but your name is on the top in the name of those who will motivate you.

Now just go ahead and win your shyness or your fear. This was my answer to your question "how to overcome shyness?". All the best!

Resources:

All the information used in these blog is due to my experiences and somewhat due to google and YouTube. 

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